Phil Cox's Thought for the Day: Trust

"To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved."

This was Phil Cox's Thought for the day yesterday and probably one of my favorites thus far. I dont know how many of you know Phil, but every morning he sends out a thought for the day, and so far 99% of them have related to struggles I have recently been facing in life. This one really stuck out to me, and he asked for feed back on it so I responded in the best way I could. A lot of you might disagree with the quote, but I have a LOT to say about this.

Trust is something I have struggled with my entire life. Whether it's been trusting a friend, a boyfriend, a family member, a teacher, a boss, a co-worker, God, or really anyone. Trust is a BIG deal and yes, I believe that a lot of trust has to be earned but I also believe that you have to just CHOOSE to trust someone... and if they screw it up... then they screw it up.

So when the quote says, "To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved," I want to point out that our whole concept of "love" has gotten so skewed that the actual meaning has gotten lost somewhere in all the crap. I mean, honestly, you hear little 13 year olds telling their boyfriend or girlfriend that they "love" them when really.... I mean, come ON, do they really LOVE them? Or are they LUSTING after them... or do they just REALLY like them? I remember being 14 years old and telling my boyfriend that I loved him... I didnt LOVE him. It was lust. And I liked the way I felt whenever he said it back to me...it makes you feel wanted, and let's face it... everyone wants to feel wanted.

The TRUTH is, if you dont have a good grasp on who God is then you cant POSSIBLY feel/experience/give/receive REAL love. Why? B/c God ISSS Love and Love ISSS God. So if a person does not know God, he/she does not know love. And if you do not know love, there is NO way to give/show it to anyone else. It's not real.

So for someone to TRUST someone... that is HUGE. At least in my opinion. B/c you have to be able to trust someone before you can really love them. Once you trust them you can put all of your time/effort into loving them unconditionally rather than constantly worrying about what they are doing behind your back. You dont focus on who they are talking to, what they are doing, how they are acting, etc... you are totally content with that person, your relationship with that person, and you know that they would never do anything to defy that trust.

So... for those of you in relationships... make sure your significant other REALLLLLY understands WHO God is and what God did and will do for you. Keep HIM at the center of EVERYTHING you do... and if that person is really meant for you NOTHING will go wrong. If YOU know and understand God and his love for you, then you are able to mimick that love and pour it out on others. But you REALLY want to make sure others understand that too!! Otherwise you will spend your whole life pouring out love and never receiving REAL love in return.

God = Love. Love = God. If you dont know God... You dont know REAL love. You just know the butterfly feeling in your tummy.... and we all know that just comes from hormones. : )

Im not really sure if ANY of this makes any sense... I hope it does.